A Sermon by Rev. James Harrison Nixon
From the creation of man and women in Genesis with Adam and Eve, we see something very important. Eve was created with the rib of Adam, now many feminist think that this is sexist. Well I have to say that thought is completely wrong and is horrid to think, the reason is simple actually. God did not need to use the rib of Adam to create Eve, the reason he did was so that Adam would not have Authority over Eve. Remember Adam was given authority over everything God created, so that he would not have authority over Eve which was his wife he made Eve apart of him.
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
(Genesis 2:23-24 KJV)
So we see that the principal of marriage is that a merger occurs between two, that two become one. The husband is not better than the wife and the wife is not better than the husband, they are equal they are the same. The husband sits at the head as he came first and the wife is second as creation says, yet decisions are made together. Marriage is a partnership, a relationship built on love and trust. If you want to buy a boat the first person you need to ask is your wife, you cannot just make an investment without consulting your other half. Again I will say it, your other half and we see it appear again as Jesus even teaches:
And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
(Matthew 19:5-6 KJV)
So again we see the same line from Genesis repeated again in Matthew, this time being taught by Jesus. Now there is one word in there called cleave, in Greek it is proskollaō which means to join or cement together. So when you Cleave something it was meant to stay together and not break apart. We know that before the exodus divorce was not allowed, and only death could separate a marriage. Yet Moses in Deuteronomy gave into the demands of the people and wrote a law on divorce because so many wanted it, so God gave them a way to do so even though God preferred they did not. As we see later on, Jesus speaks on divorce:
But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
(Matthew 5:32 KJV)
Divorce is not the correct way to fix anything, neither is adultery, but working on a marriage and showing respect to each other. In fact, marriage is so important the first written miracle that Jesus performed was turning water into wine at a wedding. We should show honor to the vows of marriage and a husband should respect his wife and a wife her husband, married should learn to make up not break up.
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
(Hebrews 13:4 KJV)
We should respect ourselves and be truthful and honorable to one another, we should respect each other. We should not treat sex as an all you can eat buffet and try and plate as much as possible. No we should find that one that God wants us to be with, that one God places us with, and we know when that happens. Yes, we will have girlfriends or boyfriends dating is a part of growing up. Yet dating does not mean you have to sleep with them to be liked, just because those around you are doing it, does not mean you have to do it. It is okay to be an outcast you never have to give into peer pressure.
Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
(1 Corinthians 7:3 KJV)
Husbands always try and do the best you can to make your wife happy, bring her some roses every now and then or get her a box of chocolates, just do something nice. Wives this goes for you as well. It is always good to do the same for each other. Marriage really is a job, that both have to work for. You cannot take it for advantage or it will crumble apart and it can be hard to rebuild. You have to build it, and mend it many times over the years and that is a fact that everyone has to understand. It is a constant job; it is like maintaining a building if you neglect it the building becomes condemned.
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
(1 Corinthians 7:4 KJV)
I want to take some time to repeat this again, when we are married we become one. The husband and the wife are no longer two but one, I have no single say on my body and my wife has no single say on her body. We make mutual agreements with each other. Together, the choices are made and together we live. This is compromise, a trait that seems to be leaving our world in all aspects but shouldn’t especially in marriage. For example; I tell my wife I want a motorcycle she says no well that should be the end of it, I do not need to go and buy one behind her back and ask for forgiveness later. That isn’t how marriage works, marriage works by getting those no’s and getting those yes’.
When we learn to act as one we then learn to be one as we are commanded to be, again God intended us to be one. From the moment of creation as he took the rib of Adam to form Eve, husband and wife will be joined as one together in the grace and glory of God our Father. So we should always have a mutual respect for each other in a relationship. A wife should respect her husband’s wishes and vice versa, and work as a unit together. As well a couple needs to learn to set some time a day away from each other to collect thoughts and prayer, to keep their relationship with God first.